Happy Cinco de Mayo!

This post has nothing to do with Cinco De Mayo...
Today Oprah is talking candidly to seven men who have cheated on their wives. One of the cheaters claimed that he never actually had sex with the other woman. He was crying and Oprah asked him why. He started saying something about how much he loves his wife. I’ve never heard Oprah cuss before. But she said to him all those tears don’t mean a DAMN thing if he can’t tell the truth.

The cheaters agreed that most men cheat on their wives. (Nooooooooo!)

All of the wives except one appeared on the show and they were holding their husbands hands.

Most of the men did not seem genuinely remorseful. Many of them did not take any responsibility for and of the issues in their marriages. In fact, it seemed easier for them to cheat rather than make a genuine effort to communicate their needs to their wives. That’s just lazy and selfish. Watching these men made me feel a little sad. But mostly I feel OUTRAGED! The truth is many mothers (and wives for that matter) have 2 full time jobs—one outside the home and another taking care of nearly everything inside the home. Would it be too much to ask these lazy, self-centered slackers to put their egos aside every now and then and cater to the woman’s needs in order to bring the spark back into their relationship?

Men, let me clue you in on a little secret: A lot of us women are willing to meet you more than half way in keeping the sparks going if you help a little around the house. After working all day, coming home to cook, clean, do laundry all while trying to give the kids some attention before bath and bed time, many times collapsing in the bed is about all we can muster. Personally, if BB takes care of dinner, cleans the kitchen and remembers to Windex the glass table without me having to ask, mmmm that is sexy.